At times, life can trigger a feeling of treading endless water with no help in sight. I am a horrible swimmer, but I am a wonderful over-compensator. With grit and a sense of necessity, I cope with a driven spirit of self-reliance. I convince myself that I am just fine to tread deep waters alone.
The problem with self-reliance is that the deeper the waters get, the sooner I tire out and hit my limit.
Isolating lies will whisper, “No one will ever come to rescue you. You will always be holding this up alone. You aren’t worth anyone’s effort.”
In a desperate attempt to avoid the waves of pain, I tend to cling to the safety of staying on the surface. In the shallow, it is all about self-preservation and the ability to get out quickly if things feel too uncomfortable. Unfortunately, the comfort doesn’t last long. I am easily disenchanted with the many glittery things I find or create in the safety of the shallow surface as my raw heart cries for real connection.
Self-reliance and surface living are a quick fix, but authentic connection is the cure for complete healing.
As scary as it is, you might only know the depth of grace when the waters get deep. There, your faith will increase to new places. There, you will find those “Come Hell or High Water” friends who will hold fast by your side when you call for help. I know because I have lived it. My relationship with Jesus and with others grew far greater when I traded in isolation for true connection. I am still working at living it now.
Is it time to start a conversation that matters?
Is it time to give permission to yourself to live from a place of grace instead of performance?
Is it time to be honest about a dream that you have ignored?
It is time to invite a new friend over and step out of loneliness?
Is it time to be honest about who you are and stop trying so hard to look perfect?
Step into the deep, my friends. Experience the full beauty and freedom this life can behold. People may look at you like you are crazy. Some may not know how to go there with you, but a few will hold true. Rest assured, the next wave of life will not take you down. It is there that you will finally be rescued by the One who calls you by name. Don’t hold back, there is always a promise of hope to be found in the deep waters.
Isaiah 43:2 “When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty you will not drown.”
“Disturb us, Lord, to dare more boldly.
To venture on wider seas
Where storms will show Your mastery;
Where losing sight of land,
We shall find the stars.”
– A Prayer by Sir Frances Drake, 1577